Let me start with a little bit of 12th standard maths: According to multivariable calculus, there can be an infinite number of solutions to a given problem. Which means: if ten people sit down to solve a X-equation (a multivariable calculus problem), it is possible that all of these ten people will get different solutions to the same problem.
Now it nowhere means that one solution is truer than the other. It doesn’t imply that the truth of a single answer is the only reality that is inhabitable at the face of such an equation, a question or a problem.
Answers, therefore, by their very nature are limiting. They limit you to one reality, to one dimension of thought, to one house of conclusion and to one way of life. There is no other way that you can possibly imagine that could exist for you to live your life differently than the way you might be already doing. Answers have this secret ability to lock you into an imaginary prison that doesn’t allow space for other possible realities.
For example, you are on a weight loss spree and you imagine, how you would want to lose that extra 1o kg? The first answer that will come to your mind probably would be, say: “Ah, I have to hit the gym regularly.” And If I ask you again, what else? You would say: “Maybe follow a keto or a low carb diet.” And if I still ask you what else and how fast, you would say, “Maybe use the evening time as well to jog and do a bit of abs,” and if I still go on poking you for an answer you would say: “I don’t know – what do I do? Go for Botox or a Tummy Tuck? That’s horrible!” At the cost of fuelling your annoyance, I would ask you again, how else would you like to lose your weight without doing any of the above. And by that time, you might be running behind me with a ruler to spank my ass up!
The point is, if I, at that moment told you that you could actually lose weight by merely believing in the fact that the extra weight I am carrying must melt away in no time, you would ofcourse not believe me. And because the first feeling about that thought would be nothing but disbelief, it will definitely not manifest into a reality. This is what answers do to us. They give births to doubts and they give births to limitations.
In contrast, questions release us. Once you question, and you absolve yourself from the burden of answering that question, you begin to remain in the question. It’s called:
Being in the Question. If you be in the question, you will go on creating multiple answers, even without your knowledge, because answers will keep coming to you. You don’t have to take the burden of answering them yourself. In the previous example, your main purpose was to lose weight. But where did you invest your energy in: in the process of losing weight. In the How of the process. You were more concerned with how I am going to lose weight, than just lose weight without worrying about the how. This how was the foundation of the walls you built around yourself, to lock yourself into one single reality. What if there were multiple realities? What if we didn’t have to bother about the how and start asking questions without bothering how we are going to answer them, or answer them at all? What if we only needed to know the goal we wanted and asked the right question for the goal to happen, without bothering about the how or the answer? For example, instead of worrying about how I am going to lose the extra weight, and struggling for two-three answers to it, what if we could ask: What will it take for me to have the fabulous body and face I desire at this moment? And just be in it – not answer it. Isn’t that lighter, doesn’t it liberate you from all the answers you have already predefined for yourself? Doesn’t it make you hopeful of the multiple, infinite ways by which that goal could be achieved. This is what we call as #BeingInTheQuestion. And this is what will create infinite realities and possibilities for you.
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